Maintaining Boundaries

Dear Librans,

As I’m writing this, I’ve finished working for the day. Mondays are normally hectic for me but lately I’ve been trying to go to sleep at a reasonable hour on Sunday nights. It helps when I have my life coach classes because when I’m done, I’m really done for the day.

I’ve also started telling myself when I feel tired or distracted, “You’re wide awake and super excited!”

I’ll admit that this doesn’t always work but it does so enough that I know it’s helping. Baby steps, right?!

Well, something I’ve been working on is maintaining my boundaries. I believe, as a Libra, I must feel like I’m in balance or as close to it as possible. When people, things or events keep pushing me outside my balance area of where I not only feel comfortable but can also function, I’ve had to start really sticking to my boundaries.

This is not always easy for me.

I’ve not talked to a friend physically/virtually in a little more than a week because they pushed me outside of the area that was comfortable for me – especially since I was already dealing with something. They wanted to go on about a topic even though I said twice that I was done with the conversation. They didn’t like that, and they hung up the phone on me.

What was amazing, in the moment and even now, is that I immediately felt a load lift when the call was ended. I felt in alignment again. Of course, I don’t want anyone upset with me but in the end, if someone refuses to give me the space to breathe, there’s something wrong with that in my reality. They may feel the total opposite from me and that’s more than okay. I tried to talk it out and explain but they didn’t want to.

I’m not even opposed to them calling when they do want to talk calmly – even if we don’t agree ultimately. But I’m no longer the guy that will be denied my truth.

Look, I believe there’s an underlying reason that each of us do the things we do. We aren’t always cognizant of those reasons, but the reasons are always there. Therefore, I try hard to not write people off as useless, etc. But from now on, when I share with folks that I’m done – in the moment or a bit longer – they must listen. I can’t have a fast heartbeat from situations that don’t make sense to me.

I’m done with that mode of life…

Love and Light!

P.S. What are some things you’re working on for yourself? How do you keep it going when you want to fall back into those habits you’re trying to grow out of?

Can You Create Perfect Harmony?

A lot of people feel out of balance in their lives, and wish they could create perfect harmony in relation to their job, family and so on. While there is really no such thing as “perfect”, many people are able to achieve a greater balance in their lives through a range of self-help practices.

One of these is the practice of mindfulness.

What Is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness is a type of meditation practice that has been used for thousands of years in order to focus the mind and improve concentration. It has the added benefit of making you more calm and relaxed, and can help you enjoy yourself more. It can best be described as learning how to live in the moment.

Don’t We All Live in the Moment?

A lot of people might think they live in the moment. However, the fact is that most of the time we are just lurching from one item on our to-do list to the next. This can lead to stress and even burnout, which can in turn lead to poor health, difficulties at work, and tense relationships.

The Benefits of Mindfulness Meditation

Most non-Western medical schools of thought, such as Ayurveda from India which has been practiced for 5000 years, believe in holistic healing. They try to treat body, mind and spirit, all at the same time. The goal is to get them all into balance and harmony.

Meditation can help with all three. Mindfulness meditation in particular can help develop inner peace and harmony internally and externally. A little mindfulness practice every day is like a mini-vacation and trip to the spa all in one.

Body

Mindfulness meditation helps lower blood pressure, reduces stress, and even decreases pain. It triggers relaxation and an overall sense of well-being even during sessions which might be emotionally difficult. The deep breathing oxygenates the body and helps improve the immune system. It also helps detoxify the body.

Mind

To Buddhists, who are masters of meditation, the mind is either an unruly wild elephant or a monkey, rampaging through our lives or swinging from thought to thought. The only way to tame the elephant and stop the monkey mind is through meditation.

To meditate means to think. We can all think. It’s just a question of what we are thinking about.

In the case of mindfulness meditation, we are either observing our thoughts, or observing an action we are performing – such as walking through a park. Through the process of observing, we become more familiar with our racing thoughts and learn to tune out the ones that are not helpful, and focusing on the ones that are.

Mindfulness is often called living in the present, because we are no longer dwelling on things that happened in the past or worrying about the future all the time. We are giving ourselves permission to enjoy life as it unfolds, moment by moment.

Mindfulness meditation improves focus, concentration and the ability to get to the center of a problem more easily. With mindfulness practice, you will notice a big difference at work and in your relationships. The difference is termed a “flow state” – a type of harmony in which everything feels effortless and even fun.

Spirit

A healthier body and a less stressed mind leads to a more harmonious spirit. Your own inner sense of well-being is enhanced. This will often result in you feeling more connected with others, and with the outside world. Stopping to smell the roses helps you enjoy your life and feel you are making the most of it, not just sleepwalking through it.

If your life seems to be nothing but endless turmoil, try mindfulness meditation and experience greater harmony than ever before.

Do you have a practice for aligning your life?  I would love to hear your thoughts.  Chat me up in the comments section.