Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

Dear Libra’s Balance Readers,

Do you know what your limiting beliefs are?

I was forced to think about this through my life coaching courses. Most times, for many of us, we don’t even realize that we’re experiencing these types of thoughts. A limiting belief is a type of thought you have that provides some type of constraint and keeps you from even trying. It can be about you, other people, society, or anything else.

This might be a limiting belief that you can never be wealthy, won’t achieve the level of success you dream of, or that you can’t wear that swimsuit with the body you have now. Limiting beliefs can be big or small, and all impact you deeply.

Why Are Limiting Beliefs a Bad Thing?

The reason you don’t want to have too many limiting beliefs is because they can keep you from putting effort in trying something. Limited beliefs are typically beliefs that aren’t even true. They are based around fear, anxiety, or experiences you have had in the past.

Some of the limiting beliefs that I constantly must guard against are not feeling as though I’m good enough or not feeling worthy of love due to past experiences with family and romantic partners.

Try not to let your fears dictate your life. Limiting beliefs can keep you from completing your goals, because you have this idea that you will never be able to reach that area of success in the first place. Which is false – you can do anything you put your mind to – unless of course you want to sprout some wings and fly.

What Are Your Limiting Beliefs?

Make a list of any limiting beliefs you might have. Here are some to help get you started:

I’m not good enough.
I’m not smart enough.
I don’t deserve it.
It didn’t work out in the past.
I always quit everything I start.

This can be related to anything from romance and relationships, to work, budgeting, becoming healthier, losing weight, really anything you can think of that is a goal of yours.

How to Challenge Them

Once you have your list of limiting beliefs, go through each one and find a way to challenge them or flip them around. Go down the list and one at a time, write down what is causing the limiting belief in the first place, then come up with a way to challenge them.

For example, many people have a limiting belief about losing weight. They assume they can’t lose weight because they tried and failed in the past. How can you challenge this? Maybe you try a different method, you do it with less restrictions, you start slow, or you find motivation from other people who have lost weight successfully.

It doesn’t matter what it is; there is a way to challenge these limiting beliefs.

What is a limiting belief you’ve had and how did you work your way through it? Are you currently overcoming a belief? Tell me more about it in the comments.

Love and Light!

P.S. – Would you like to engage in more in-depth conversations regarding limiting beliefs? Join my Intentional Holistic wellness group to have these conversations with peers who are compassionate and will help give that push you need to do the work you need to do to step forward in your journey!

Signs You Need a Life Reset

Maybe you have been reading about resetting your life and making healthy changes, but you still aren’t sure if YOU need to do it. Here are some common signs of needing to take a closer look at your life and make changes that will benefit you in the long run.

You Are Experiencing Burnout

The first sign that you are in need of a reset in your life is when you are experiencing burnout. This often happens when you are either working too much, or focusing so much on one thing, that the rest of your life is being neglected.

It is possible to have burnout even when you don’t feel “busy” constantly. Burnout can happen from focusing too much on one area of your life, which makes it to where you are so exhausted with that certain activity or aspect of your life, the rest of your life is kind of falling behind.

This happened to me not so long ago with my volunteer work. I went from having delighted feelings to those of anger and resentment. Needless to say, it wasn’t a good feeling.

You Keep Trying (and Failing) New Things

Have you noticed that you keep trying new things toward a specific goal, but then you quit pretty soon afterward or lose your steam? This is a really good time to do a reset and try to find where your priorities are.

This isn’t always just a case of having no follow-through. Sometimes, it is because you need to reevaluate things, remind yourself why you set these goals, and figure out what tasks would be better suited for you to complete those goals.

You Haven’t Worked on Your Goals in a While

Maybe you have goals that you thought you really wanted, but you never seem to work on them much. Things happen and lives get busy, but if it has been months or even years, then now is the time to either decide how to reach those goals, or replace them with something else you are more passionate about.

You Feel Stuck, Helpless, or Unmotivated

And lastly, if you have been feeling a little stuck, lost, or just unmotivated, it is time to look at your life and figure out what isn’t quite working for you. These feelings can come from many things, from your mental health to just being overworked.

Start writing in a journal or blog to figure out why you are experiencing these emotions, and work on a life reset so you can get down to what is happening and why you feel this way.

Have you ever needed a life reset? What were some signs that you noticed and what was your first step in changing?

Love and Light!

Warped Beginning‘s

I’ve been very intentional as it relates to my journey of healing over the past three years (as of the writing of this post. In my head, it sounds like a constant refrain. I’ve tried to be more open to a broader audience so I could stop living in the fear of not appearing to be the stereotypical view of silent strength that many men of color are taught to prescribe to and I want to let others know that keeping these things bottled up can only hurt us in the long run.

Check out the following short clip from The Fresh Prince and I’ll be sure to continue my thoughts beneath.

I just had to take a moment before finishing this post. It’s still a hard clip for me to look at.

I carried the character’s feelings – abandonment, not feeling as though I’m good enough, anger and a broken spirit – with me for years. To a certain extent, I still do.

When folks hear me talk about my journey of healing, this is where it all starts.

I was soon to be 11 years old when our family dynamics changed irreparably – our unit changed, never to be the same again. I internalized much of that. I won’t go into the gritty details in this post because this is about my journey and no one else’s.

I’m now 41 — between the start of what I view as the beginning of things through the time when I started walking my path, that’s nearly 30 years of my life. I just grew tired of being stuck in a rut; hitting the gas pedal and not being able to move forward. I was tired of relationships (whether romantic or on a friendship level) not being as open as they could be. I knew something was wrong but I didn’t know that I was broken emotionally. I held a warped sense of who I was. I became an over-achiever – student government, preaching at a young age, not trying to not cause issues for my mom. I also grew to be distant because that was my way of numbing the pain I felt.

Did I understand what I was doing at the time? Absolutely not.

As the old saying goes, “If only I knew then what I know now…”

People are naturally drawn to me but I would hold relationships at a certain distance. I would build that wall so high, dig a mote around it, place alligators and sharks in the water, put up some barbed wire fencing, and on and on. Then I would stand a few football fields back and smile and wave and I thought I had it all under control.

I thought I was protecting myself. In the end, I wasn’t allowing any of the comfort, companionship, love and sense of belonging I was searching for to enter because I had set up so many booby traps — but I did have a fucking smile on my face – looking crazy as all get out.

A significant relationship ended for me about three years ago – partly due to my issues and in a big part because of the other person’s honesty and loyalty. For whatever reason, the lightbulb turned on and I thought I needed to make a change.

I started participating in counseling and began explaining to folks that my past actions touched what was wrong emotionally on my end. I didn’t always get the results that I wanted but everyone is on their own journey and I have no control over that.

BTW, that’s also an issue I’ve had – I wanted to fix everything for people.

My healing was put to the test recently as it relates to friendship and romantic partner. To make a long story short – I reached out to trusted people, shared my grief, approached counseling and was able to pull myself out from wanting to retreat behind the wall with the mote!

It may not sound like much but I’m so proud of this!! I’m practicing what I preach. Has it been perfect? Hell no! But it’s a hell of a lot better than what I used to do.

I will always look at the world through the eyes of Will Smith’s character above. The difference now is that I have gained tools to handle it in a better way and demand that I be treated in a better way.

Love and light!

A Step by Step Guide to Do-It-Yourself Credit Repair

 

There are many options available if you need to repair your credit. Credit repair companies will help you, but they do charge a fee. Some of these companies really do a good job, but many do not. 

 

Repairing your own credit is entirely possible. If you’re persistent and organized, you can do just as well as any company available for hire. 

 

Follow these steps to successfully repair your own credit:

 

  1. Get copies of all your credit reports.Equifax, Experian, and TransUnion are the big 3 credit reporting firms. You should obtain all three reports. 

 

  • You can obtain a free copy once a year from each of these companies at https://www.annualcreditreport.com/
  • If you’ve recently been denied credit or a job for having poor credit, you can also get a free copy of your reports, even if it has been less than a year since you got a copy. 

 

  • Find out what these companies are saying about your credit worthiness.
  1. Find any errors. Once you obtain your credit reports, look for any negative information, even if it’s true. Nearly everyone has at least one error on his or her credit report. 

 

  • Remember that the credit bureaus just report information. They don’t take the time to verify it. 

 

  • Make a list of everything you want to dispute.
  1. Dispute all the negative items. While it won’t do any good to dispute true items still carrying a balance, everything else is fair game. Items with a balance will just reappear the following month anyway. 

 

  • All disputed items should be documented in writing. Do not use the forms that are available online on the credit bureau’s website. That just makes everything too easy for them.

 

    • There are many form letters online that you can use for your dispute. You basically just want to say that you don’t agree with the items and wish to have them verified.
    • The credit bureau then has 30 days to go back to the creditor and verify the accuracy of the item or else the item must be removed from your credit report. This applies if they fail to accomplish this task in time, for any reason. It’s the law!
    • Be sure to send all of your correspondence by registered mail or some equivalent. You want to be able to prove when the item was received by the credit bureau.
    • If they don’t verify the items in time, remind them of the law and demand that the items in question be expunged from your records.

     

    1. Don’t give up. Persistence and being organized are the keys to success. You must send your letters, follow up, and document everything. Keep copies of your letters and their responses. You just might need all of this information at a later date.
    2. Realize the truth of the situation. Credit bureaus make money by selling credit reports, not by responding to your inquiries. The last thing they want to do is spend time and resources on you. If you’re a pain in the neck, you might eventually get what you want.
    3. Don’t be afraid to use the court system.Taking the credit bureaus to court and suing them can sometimes be the best solution. 

     

    • Anytime you have a mistake on your credit report that the credit bureau refuses to remove, there is a $1,000 fine. The same $1,000 fine applies for any item that they fail to verify and refuse to remove. 

     

    • Credit bureaus have a long history of caving in at the last minute and giving the consumer everything they want.

     

    • Don’t hesitate to file a lawsuit with your local small claims court.

     

      • You might have to actually show up to court before they are willing to deal. But these credit bureaus don’t want to get stuck with thousands of dollars in fines, especially when they have nothing to gain. Give it a try.

       

      Do-it-yourself credit repair is something that anyone can do. It really is very simple and effective. It can take months to see any real improvement, but it’s much faster than just waiting out the many years it takes for the items to fall off the list naturally.

       

      Boost your credit and better your life. You’ll be happy you did!

       

      P.S. – If you’re looking to improve your wealth building potential by taking a wholesale approach to your financial well-being, join my team today!

       

      A Selfish Journey

      Selfish. Over the past two days, In various conversations, I’ve heard that word used as a negative.

      Specifically, those conversations were dealing with people on their personal journeys of emotional, physical and/or spiritual healing. In just about every conversation, people have been told that they were selfish because they were making positive changes for themselves that people surrounding them didn’t like.

      I believe that we, as humans, typically don’t like change. Many of us drive the same route to work, we get up at the same time, we cook the same meals. So when our friends and family see changes happening, even though they are positive, that scares them… At least in my view. That leads me to my conversation piece today:

      What is your definition of selfish? Can a person that is making a positive change for their well-being be considered selfish? Why or why not?

      Let’s have a discussion. Love and light! 😍

      10 unusual Ways to Raise Your Credit Score

      It’s possible to raise your credit score with some simple changes. Credit scores affect insurance rates, loan interest rates, and other important financial products. A higher score can lead to a brighter financial future!

       

      Consider using these ideas to raise your credit score:

       

      1.      Piggyback on good credit histories. You can use a family member’s or friend’s good credit history to help you. 

       

      ·         If you add yourself to an account in good standing, your credit score will go up. 

       

      ·         Most credit cards allow users to add family members and distant relatives to their accounts. 

       

      ·         You’ll be an authorized user on the account and able to make purchases and pay the bills. 

       

      2.      Keep old accounts open. It’s important to keep older accounts like credit cards open because they influence credit scores. Credit scores can decrease if you close accounts.

      ·         Account age also matters. Scores are affected positively by older accounts because they show a history of maintaining credit.

      ·         Plus, these old accounts add to the amount of credit you have access to, thus lowering the percentage of available credit you’re using, which raises your score.

       

      3.      Set up auto-payments. Automatic payments are a convenient way to pay bills every month. They’re also an easy way to avoid a late payment and a fee. Auto-payments can help improve your credit score by preventing these issues. 

       

      4.      Pay credit card bills more than once a month. Credit scores rely on a debt utilization ratio. This ratio compares how much debt you have to the size of your credit limit. 

       

      ·         One way to improve credit scores is to lower the debt utilization ratio. 

       

      ·         Paying your credit card bills more than once a month can help you improve the score by decreasing the ratio. Extra payments lower your debt while increasing how much credit is available during the month.  

       

      5.      Ask for good-will deletions. It’s possible to ask credit reporting agencies and lenders for good-will deletions. 

       

      ·         Late fees, late payments, or unpaid bills can affect credit scores. A good-will deletion is a request to remove these items based on a prior good history. This method works best if you’re a long-term customer with few issues.

       

      6.      Avoid pre-approved offers. The pre-approved offers that come in the mail usually require a credit check, and multiple credit checks affect your credit score by lowering it. 

       

      ·         It’s also beneficial to avoid creating too many accounts. It’s easier to manage a smaller number, so you’re less likely to make mistakes. 

       

      7.      Avoid new utility accounts. Utilities like gas, electricity, and phone services require credit checks that lower scores. It’s better to transfer utilities to a new address instead of opening new ones. 

       

      8.      Remember library fines. Did you return all of your library books? Unpaid fines can decrease your credit score, and libraries can send unpaid bills to collection agencies.

       

      9.      Avoid online quote comparisons. Online quotes for insurance or loans count as inquiries on your credit score. These credit checks affect the score each time you ask for a quote. 

       

      ·         Getting quotes from multiple websites can lead to many credit checks. It’s best to narrow down the options before getting a quote, so your score isn’t affected. 

       

      10.  Establish long-term credit. Instead of switching to a new company that promises lower rates for a few months, consider staying with the previous one. 

       

      ·         Credit scores go up based on positive, long-term relationships with lenders. 

       

      ·         It may be tempting to take the lower credit card offer from another company to move balances, but your score may suffer. 

       

      It’s possible to raise credit scores with several strategies. Careful planning is an important part of getting a higher score.

       

      PS – If you want more tips like these, check out a full credit system that will put you on a brighter financial footing.

       

      Were you surprised at any of these tips?  Did I forget to add any that you think would be simple for folks to follow?  Share your thoughts in the comments.

       

      Love and Light!

      What Does It Mean to Live in the Moment?

      To live in the moment, or in the present, refers to a state of being aware, conscious, alert, in tune with your senses, and focused on what is happening at that particular moment in time. It is the opposite of “automatic living”, that is, just going through the motions.

      More importantly, the present is a time during which we stop dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. We are able to enjoy the here and now.

      Our Mind Creates Our World

      Our mind is a powerful thing that processes all of our life’s experiences, and is also the instigator of our actions. However, most of the time, we are not even aware our own mind and its full power and potential. We lurch from one thought to the next with no rhyme or reason, and often feel the world is external to us, outside ourselves, and that we have no control over it.

      The truth is that living in the present can help you gain the skills you need to take control of your life, through focus and concentration.

      We Value What We Pay Attention To

      When we concentrate our attention on the present, we focus on the task at hand, such as washing the dishes, gardening, or spending time with a loved one. We are not just sitting next to them on the sofa, with both of us fiddling with our cell phones. We are making eye contact, speaking, listening, and perhaps being affectionate. We give our full attention to what we are doing and we let go of the rest.

      Being Mindful

      The practice of living in the moment is referred to as being mindful – in other words, paying attention. Being mindful when we eat means we enjoy our food more, because we are not wolfing it down. Being mindful as we walk through the park means we can enjoy the beauty of nature, such as the flowers and birdsong. It is about quality not quantity, brief moments in the present that take us out of our busy day. We can stop running around propelled by stress and take a short “mini-vacation” through mindfulness practice.

      How to Start Mindfulness Practice

      Mindfulness practice starts with observing things more closely, and then trying to describe them. Imagine washing the dishes. Think of the sight, sound, smell, touch and so on. What does it feel like? How do you feel when you are doing it?

      For most of us, this is a dull chore, and one we usually do on autopilot without thinking about it. But thanks to mindfulness, it can become interesting and even fun.

      Stopping to reflect on one or two of our actions throughout the day can help us discover the beauty and wonder of all we do. We stop taking things for granted.

      We also start to feel more positive energy because we are being less dragged down by the baggage of our past, and are giving ourselves more and more permission to enjoy ourselves and have fun. We are creating special little moments, and through those moments, can feel confident we have more like them to look forward to.

      Live Every Moment Like It Counts

      Life is too short to sleepwalk through it. Adding mindfulness as a daily practice can help you truly appreciate all you have. You will notice your work improves, your relationships get better, and everything starts to feel more effortless and less stressful. It does take practice, but the result is a happier, healthier you with a rich life full of meaning.

       

       

      What are some of your techniques to live in the here and now?  I would love to learn from you.  Let’s chat…

      Signs That It’s Time to Let Go of a Relationship

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      No man (or woman) is an island, as the famous poem states. We all need other people in our lives, in various types of relationships. In fact, we are often defined by them in our families:

      Mother
      Daughter
      Sister
      Aunt
      Wife

      Or:

      Father
      Son
      Brother
      Uncle
      Husband

       

      Outside our family circle, we decide who people are to us, and who we are to others:

      Friend
      Best friend
      Boy/girl friend
      Lover
      Domestic partner
      Business partner
      Colleague
      Boss
      Person who reports to us
      Support staff in the office or building
      Freelance worker

      And so on.

       

      We can’t choose our family, it is true, but nor should we punish ourselves trying to make a negative relationship work by constantly compromising who we are or what we believe in. We may not be able to let go of the relationship with a parent or sibling, for example, but we can let go of the idea of being obligated to please them – especially if they are a difficult type of person who is never pleased.

      We can choose friends, lovers and spouses. However, that choice will often come into question when different things shake the foundation of the relationship, such as trust, and the assumption that the person cares for you and wants the best for you, and vice versa. If that is not the case, then you might find yourself thinking more and more about letting the relationship go.

      Signs That It’s Time to Let Go

      No one likes to waste time and effort, but it also does not make sense to hang on to things in our lives that drag us down and drain our energy. It’s also true that the more you hang on to baggage, the heavier it will become, and you won’t have your hands free to embrace other things. So here are a few signs it might be time to let go.

      1. You constantly feel hurt or resentful

      The person has done something so bad, it is almost impossible to get beyond it and try to forgive them.

      2. You are the one doing all the heavy lifting

      You are the one putting most of the energy into the relationship – calling, emailing, organizing get-togethers, and so on.

      3. You are at different places in your life

      The other person might be ready to settle down and have a family, for example, but your career is just taking off, or you want to travel the world and do other exciting things.

      4. You can’t agree on the essentials in your lives

      Marriage, children, where and how you want to live, are all big questions. Sometimes loving a person isn’t enough to get over the bumps in the road that become exposed when your two views of an ideal life don’t mesh with one another.

      5. When you have to make too many sacrifices

      Some people might make sacrifices in order to maintain the relationship, but end up disappointed and bitter. For example, they promised if you had children together, they would be there doing their fair share, but they are still spending long hours in the office while you’ve given up your career for a house full of dirty diapers. And of course it is much harder to let go of a relationship once you have had children, due to co-parenting.

      6. The other person is not trustworthy

      They may not lie outright, but they don’t turn up on time or follow through with their promises, or they deceive you in various ways. People are often evasive about money, or how they spend their free time. Don’t jump to conclusions, but do insist on honesty.

      7. Dealing with the other person is draining

      Surround yourself with positive people who uplift you. If you know any “energy vampires” who are constantly draining you and leaving you no time to for yourself and the things you really enjoy, it might be time to let go.

      It’s never easy to let go of a relationship. But if you recognize one or more of these signs, it may be the best decision you can make in the long term.

      Have you had to  let go of a relationship?  What were the signs for you?  Any words of advice?  Share your thoughts in the comments below…

      Can You Create Perfect Harmony?

      A lot of people feel out of balance in their lives, and wish they could create perfect harmony in relation to their job, family and so on. While there is really no such thing as “perfect”, many people are able to achieve a greater balance in their lives through a range of self-help practices.

      One of these is the practice of mindfulness.

      What Is Mindfulness?

      Mindfulness is a type of meditation practice that has been used for thousands of years in order to focus the mind and improve concentration. It has the added benefit of making you more calm and relaxed, and can help you enjoy yourself more. It can best be described as learning how to live in the moment.

      Don’t We All Live in the Moment?

      A lot of people might think they live in the moment. However, the fact is that most of the time we are just lurching from one item on our to-do list to the next. This can lead to stress and even burnout, which can in turn lead to poor health, difficulties at work, and tense relationships.

      The Benefits of Mindfulness Meditation

      Most non-Western medical schools of thought, such as Ayurveda from India which has been practiced for 5000 years, believe in holistic healing. They try to treat body, mind and spirit, all at the same time. The goal is to get them all into balance and harmony.

      Meditation can help with all three. Mindfulness meditation in particular can help develop inner peace and harmony internally and externally. A little mindfulness practice every day is like a mini-vacation and trip to the spa all in one.

      Body

      Mindfulness meditation helps lower blood pressure, reduces stress, and even decreases pain. It triggers relaxation and an overall sense of well-being even during sessions which might be emotionally difficult. The deep breathing oxygenates the body and helps improve the immune system. It also helps detoxify the body.

      Mind

      To Buddhists, who are masters of meditation, the mind is either an unruly wild elephant or a monkey, rampaging through our lives or swinging from thought to thought. The only way to tame the elephant and stop the monkey mind is through meditation.

      To meditate means to think. We can all think. It’s just a question of what we are thinking about.

      In the case of mindfulness meditation, we are either observing our thoughts, or observing an action we are performing – such as walking through a park. Through the process of observing, we become more familiar with our racing thoughts and learn to tune out the ones that are not helpful, and focusing on the ones that are.

      Mindfulness is often called living in the present, because we are no longer dwelling on things that happened in the past or worrying about the future all the time. We are giving ourselves permission to enjoy life as it unfolds, moment by moment.

      Mindfulness meditation improves focus, concentration and the ability to get to the center of a problem more easily. With mindfulness practice, you will notice a big difference at work and in your relationships. The difference is termed a “flow state” – a type of harmony in which everything feels effortless and even fun.

      Spirit

      A healthier body and a less stressed mind leads to a more harmonious spirit. Your own inner sense of well-being is enhanced. This will often result in you feeling more connected with others, and with the outside world. Stopping to smell the roses helps you enjoy your life and feel you are making the most of it, not just sleepwalking through it.

      If your life seems to be nothing but endless turmoil, try mindfulness meditation and experience greater harmony than ever before.

      Do you have a practice for aligning your life?  I would love to hear your thoughts.  Chat me up in the comments section.

      You Got Too Much Stuff

      Erykah Badu said it best,

       

      Bag lady you gone hurt your back
      Dragging all them bags like that
      I guess nobody ever told you
      All you must hold onto, is you, is you, is you

      One day all them bags gon’ get in your way
      One day all them bags gon’ get in your way
      I said one day all them bags gon’ get in your way
      One day all them bags gon’ get in your way, so pack light,
      Pack light, mm, pack light, pack light, oh ooh

      Bag lady you gon’ miss your bus
      You can’t hurry up, ’cause you got too much stuff
      When they see you coming, niggas take off running
      From you it’s true, oh yes they do

      One day he gon’ say you crowding my space
      One day he gon’ say you crowding my space
      I said one day he gon’ say you crowding my space
      One day he gon’ say you crowding my space so, pack light
      Pack light

       

      Do you have that one piece of old baggage or energy drain that you’ve been carrying around for what seems like forever?

       

      It reminds me when I pack too heavily for a trip where I need to take a flight. I have all these suitcases and I forget that I need to get them in the airport.

       

      I’ve got one bag over my shoulder…

       

      One duffle is under my armpit…

       

      I’m holding one in my hand…

       

      …and I’m running late to get to the gate!! YIKES!!!!

       

      There are a lot of us that are trying to carry our figurative bags all day, every day and we wonder why we’re not seeming to get anywhere as fast as we want.

       

      I’m not immune to this myself. I have some emotional “stuff” that I think I’ve been holding on to for way too long … and my damn shoulders are hurting and slouched…

       

      The good thing though is that we don’t have to keep dragging our bags! That’s great, right?

       

      Most of us don’t want to carry all the “stuff” around with us but just like the luggage, after holding on to it for so long our hands and shoulders and back become cramped and strained … all because we wouldn’t let go! Guess what? That first instant where we decide to let go, it hurts like hell!! We’ve trained our extremities to become warped and uncomfortable and it takes time to get the blood flowing and for the tingling to stop.

       

      Well, it’s the same concept with our emotional baggage… Because we’ve trained our minds to be uncomfortable, the first sign of relief is almost unbearable. We have to think past that initial struggle and think about that moment after, and the next moment, and the next moment and so on and understand that true relief is right around the corner!

       

      The very first thing we have to do is decide, “Hey, I wanna put these damn bags down…” Then we take a deep breath and let go…Then we need to work the kinks from our emotional mindset – just as we do physically – with proper movement, training and simply learning to not do the things that got us to that feeling of discomfort.

       

      Here are some things that I’ve done when letting go of baggage:

       

      • Take part in counseling or therapy
      • Listen to relaxing, meditative music
      • Stay a bit busier than normal so I won’t “fall into old patterns
      • Reach out to friends to catch up

       

      We have the tools within us to begin the healing process for ourselves. If we can decide, “I want a change in my circumstance,” the following steps we need get a bit easier if we stick to our goal…whatever that may be.

       

      What do you think? Do my thoughts make sense? What are some things you do to “release your bags?” I’d love to read your thoughts in the comments below. Let’s chat!