One of my friends and I were talking about personality traits and he sent me the video below. Take a look and I’ll continue my thoughts afterward.
This video freaked me the hell out!
OK, it wasn’t nearly that bad but after reviewing it a couple of times, some things about me made perfect sense…at least in explaining it to people in the future. Below, I’ll put the things that really stood out to me:
- Needing to recharge after spending time with people
I really like to spend time with folks but after I’m done, I need recuperation time – quite a bit of it! Many of my friends and partners over the years did not understand this part of me – heck, I didn’t understand it myself.
If I don’t get that time to re-set myself, I feel out of balance and I’m not as nice of a person as I know I can be.
I try not to get into arguments much but over the years I’ve always heard, “You don’t care,” or “You’re so nonchalant about this…” I never tied that into a trait related to me being a loner.
It’s not that I don’t care – again, it takes me off balance and I don’t like that feeling.
- Being kind towards others
This one has gotten me into trouble. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, even when they piss me off. Unfortunately, many view this as a weakness in today’s society and they try to push you to see how far they can get. Most times, especially since I’ve gotten older, they’re not allowed to push very far at all.
What do you think of the video? Share your thoughts and whether anything stood out to you about yourself or someone you know.
Have you ever heard someone say, “I don’t regret anything that’s ever happened to me because it made me who I am today…”?
Well, between you and me and the four corners of this blog – I think that’s a load of crap. Who can honestly travel life’s journey and not feel regret about anything whatsoever? Maybe someone who doesn’t understand what the definition of regret is?
Regret (Noun) – feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over something that has happened
I don’t know about you but there’s plenty of “stuff” that I have some form of regret for over the span of my lifetime.
I think the single major thing I have regret for is not working on forgiveness towards my father. I won’t delve into why there would need to be reconciliation, but I can certainly share that my not working on it has caused tremendous pain for me over time.
While I believe that I’ve turned out to be a pretty decent guy, I couldn’t work on my feelings of abandonment and depression until recent history through therapy/counseling. That wasn’t fair to me, first, and it wasn’t fair to the people I was in relationship with over the years – whether family, friend or significant other. I would either be all in or placing that wide-open space because I just knew that if someone that helped in my creation could make me feel that way, why wouldn’t someone else do the same?
I truly have remorse for this.
Has it stopped me from growing? Absolutely not but I can recognize my own failings and continue to learn and grow with each passing day.
I guess you can say, “I’m a work in progress…”
Is there something you have regret for in your life? Have any thoughts for me that you can share? Give your advice or what worked for you in the comments.
Thanks for reading this rambling entry!
I turned 40 years old back on October 11, and I’ve been trying to think of a way to mark that occasion here on the blog. Would I start a new series of posts or reflect on a variety of things?
I think the answer is – Yes, both please!
I’m not even sure why I’ve put as much significance on this random birth marker, but I have…so I’m going to go with it and use it for some content!
Author’s note: Remember, I’ve just started this blog so there will be quite a bit of experimenting here – and I promise I won’t delete the failures. After all, I may look back one day and decide this blog entry should go into a future book or something…
What I’ve learned in my first 40 years
- Drink plenty of water – it will keep you hydrated and make you look younger than your years (See my picture on the home page)
- Friends will come and go – the ones who are worth longevity will still be around through it all. That’s not to say there won’t be times that there is a lull in the friendship, but they will be there when it counts.
- Life happens – there’s going to be curve balls for sure! You can’t let it destroy you. You either keep living and roll with the punches or not.
- Do good in the world – to your ability, not what you think will get you the most attention.
- Learn to say, “No!” I’m still working on this one…
- Take time each day to move – try Pilates or yoga. I love Pilates and the added benefit is that it makes my thighs and ass look good. Just saying…
- Don’t be afraid to get counseling – we all go through stuff on this journey and sometimes we need to release it, or it will make us not enjoy what we have.
- At the end of the day, you are the only one that has to live with you – it’s OK to talk to folks to get their advice but only you have to live with your decisions (Note: I’m a single guy with no kids…)
- Don’t be afraid to laugh out loud!
- Keep living…
So, what do you think? I would love to read your comments below. While you’re there, can you share some things you’ve learned along the way? I’m still learning myself…
Thanks for reading!
“That is why I write — to try to turn sadness into longing, solitude into remembrance.”
— Paulo Coelho
When I sat and began to mull over the reasons why I wanted to start The Libra’s Balance, it all came down to the quote above.
I would consider myself to be a loner, except for when my creative juices begin flowing. When I write a speech that I must deliver, something stirs within me that changes my entire nature. I compare it to the stories I’ve read about comedians. From what I understand, they’re always thinking and are calm in most instances – except for when they’re on the stage. That’s when their behavior explodes!
That’s what it’s like for me when I write.
When I became an “adult,” I became engrossed in developing my career and didn’t take as much time to creatively write for the joy of writing. Writing instead simply became a chore of what I did to earn an income – causing it to lose the excitement I once held for the art.
I wanted to regain that pleasurable sense so for my 40th birthday last month, I decided that I was going to sincerely make every effort to creatively write again!
What better way to do that than to have a blog?
I can connect with folks of every stripe and publicly hold myself accountable to rehabilitate the desire needed to run this marathon.
Hopefully, I can get your help!
So, what do you think? Is your story like mine? Why do you write? I’d love to learn…