Have you ever heard someone say, “I don’t regret anything that’s ever happened to me because it made me who I am today…”?
Well, between you and me and the four corners of this blog – I think that’s a load of crap. Who can honestly travel life’s journey and not feel regret about anything whatsoever? Maybe someone who doesn’t understand what the definition of regret is?
Regret (Noun) – feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over something that has happened
I don’t know about you but there’s plenty of “stuff” that I have some form of regret for over the span of my lifetime.
I think the single major thing I have regret for is not working on forgiveness towards my father. I won’t delve into why there would need to be reconciliation, but I can certainly share that my not working on it has caused tremendous pain for me over time.
While I believe that I’ve turned out to be a pretty decent guy, I couldn’t work on my feelings of abandonment and depression until recent history through therapy/counseling. That wasn’t fair to me, first, and it wasn’t fair to the people I was in relationship with over the years – whether family, friend or significant other. I would either be all in or placing that wide-open space because I just knew that if someone that helped in my creation could make me feel that way, why wouldn’t someone else do the same?
I truly have remorse for this.
Has it stopped me from growing? Absolutely not but I can recognize my own failings and continue to learn and grow with each passing day.
I guess you can say, “I’m a work in progress…”
Is there something you have regret for in your life? Have any thoughts for me that you can share? Give your advice or what worked for you in the comments.
Thanks for reading this rambling entry!